The other day Owen approached me in the kitchen with an observation. He communicated the fact that he’d finally figured something out.

He said, “Mommy, when I’m down here Ivan and Aron are always playing upstairs and they aren’t crying. But when I go up there and play with them, then they are always whining and crying.”

I had already made this observation some time ago and had tried to subtly give him advice on dealing with his younger brothers, encouraging him to not always push his agenda through and to speak to them with respect. He is gaining understanding in this area but doesn’t apply it on a daily basis by any means. Hoping though, that he had possibly moved from simple observation in this matter to an actual conclusion about his own behavior I asked, “What do you think we should do about that?”

He replied, “I should just stay down here.”